FWB

The famous Friends with Benefits! Almost everyone has either had one or has one currently, but why do we insist to what these "Friends with Benefits"?
Some do it because they like the other person and have the idea that this casual "relationship" will bloom into something else. Which sometimes it does, but the majority of the time, no.. no it does not. Never engage in a Friends with Benefits agreement if you are just trying to make a relationship out of it because you will end up falling farther for the person and will end up hurt worse off than you were before.
Why not? That's what brings a lot of people into this situation. One person will ask the other and this person will say to themselves "sure why not, it will be fun!".. and usually yes, it is fun.. in the beginning, but then all of sudden you look and all you are is each others side hoes until one you two finds another person (that they actually want something real with)  and dump the other one on the curb.
"We are just friends, we won't catch feelings"... This one is just pure stupidity! #1.. If you two do decide to be "sex buddies", that changes your relationship forever, you can never go back to just being "good ole buddies" cause you two will look at each other and have flashbacks to everything you two have done. #2... In the situation that you do catch feelings than what do you do? Do you tell him and possibly ruin whatever friendship is left or do you hide it and slowly fall more & more in love until he breaks it off along with breaking your heart? Either way either you get hurt or you potentially lose a "friend".. either option is not a good one.
Friends with Benefits.. Not a good idea guys!

Augustus Waters

   It seems as if every girl in America, including me, is in love with this man, Ansel Elgort, or better known as Augustus Waters in the movie, Fault in Our Stars, based on the book by John Green. Some call him the new Ryan Gosling, who played Noah in The Notebook. Why is everyone obsessed with him, you may ask? Well the best answer I could come up with is he is the dream boyfriend. Even when he knew his days were very numbered, he spent those days making sure he made a girl, with less numbered days then he, smile  and laugh every time he got the chance. What girl wouldn't want an Augustus Waters? His witty and humorous personality made anyones day near him. He seemed fearless, yet was afraid of airplanes, he seemed eternal, yet had a very small amount of days left with us on planet earth, he was so surprising, yet so predicable.
   There are 313 pages in The Fault In Our Stars. We don't meet Gus until page 8. He never says a word until page 11. He leaves us on page 261. That is 253 pages where we meet him until he leaves, within those 253 pages he is physically in only 172 of those. It only took 172 pages of a 313 page book to have every person that read the book fall in love with him, and never look at love the same again.
   We will never know what the future holds, Gus followed this rule of life with a passion. His love Hazel Grace, not so much, she never thought anyone could change that either, until she met Gus at a cancer support group, then slowly throughout those 172 pages began to believe what Gus loved about living in the moment, and being a feather in the wind. He was always so straight forward to people, unlike most people are today, most hide behind lies and over-exaggerations, Gus frowned at those kind of people. No matter how crappy or weak he felt that day he put all his energy and strength into his love, Hazel Grace.
I do not know if there is an Augustus Waters even really exists in this world, but if there is an Augustus Waters on planet Earth the world is love with you.
“I’m in love with you, and I know that love is just a shout into the void, and that oblivion is inevitable, and that we’re all doomed and that there will come a day when all our labor has been returned to dust, and I know the sun will swallow the only earth we’ll ever have, and I am in love with you.” 
― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars (Gus)

*Inspiration*

The Sadie's Dance is Here!

The girl ask guy winter dance is here! There are many things you have to think about before this dance arrives.

1. The Date! This is the first step to the perfect 2014 Sadie's dance! Pick someone you know you will have a great time, and not a downer. Also go out of your box a little don't ask your best guy friend ask that guy in your class you have had that little crush on for….. well forever! Remember ladies to not just go up and ask him, which you can, but put effort into it, it is always better with a little bit thoughtfulness into it. 
2. The Outfit! Girl ask guys dances (in my experience) have been more casual then prom and homecoming. SO remember to keep it casual girls and don't bug your date about your outfits, that is the last stuff he wants to be hearing for two weeks. No matter the theme go casual. 
3. The Before Party! Pick a person's house (make sure their parents are cool with it) and have like 5 couples all go to that house. Have a casual dinner, like hamburgers and hotdogs or pizza and have laughs and take those awesome pictures that you will keep forever. 
4. It's that time of the night! The time has come you are walking into the place where the dance is held, with your perfect date, the perfect outfit, and the perfect dinner in your stomach. Remember you are not glued to your date! You can mingle without him. Another thing there are always those girls those don't ask anyone because they are too shy, drop your date for one slow song and have him dance with her, get everyone else on it make sure she doesn't have to dance alone during one slow dance. 
5. That After Party! Make sure it is something very relaxed you and your date just spent 2 or 3 hours dancing, you need a rest. Go to fro yo or ice cream. Or bring a change of clothes go to your or his house, or a friends house and just hang and watch a movie! 

I hope if this is your first sadie's dance or your fourth that it is the best yet! Good luck have a fabulous, fun, and safe night everyone!

Go on and kiss the girl :*

I was on youtube when I came along the song, Kiss the Girl by Ashley Tisdale, yea guys from the Little Mermaid, but it gave me the idea for this post.
Guys are you afraid to kiss your date, or girlfriend? Here is the thing the guy for centuries has been the instigator the first kiss between a couple. But i guarantee all guys, no matter what get nervous about that first kiss you two share. There are many reasons for this to occur, what is there are no sparks? What if I mess up? What is she doesn't want to? What if I do it too much? What if I don't kiss her long enough? What is the point of kissing her anyways? Why does she need me to do it? These are valid questions for you guys to be asking.
Q. What if there are no sparks?
A.This is your first kiss with this amazing girl, if you really like her, and she really likes you, there will always be that fire lit when you kiss. When the fire is extinguished you shouldn't try to rekindle the fire, but rather let it burn out.
Q.What if i mess up?
A.All first kisses between couples are always pretty dang awkward, but with practice you guys will be pros with each other's lips.
Q.What if she doesn't want to?
A.I guarantee she wants to kiss you. If she doesn't want to kiss you, you guys aren't a couple, you guys are two people of the opposite sex that hang out and call each other boyfriend and girlfriend.
Q.What if I kiss her too long or too short?
A.You can never have your timing down on the first kiss, my advice is to kiss her long enough for you to count to 7.
Q.What's the point of kissing her?
A.Like said in one of the previous questions, if you guys don't kiss or do anything romantic you guys are not together, you are two people of the opposite sex who hang out a lot and call each other boyfriend and girlfriend. Just kiss her!
Q.What is it I that needs to do it?
A.This question is actually one of the main questions I am asked. It annoys me a lot when guys ask me this. You guys always say how you want to be the main in the relationship, so act like it guys.
Below is the song that inspired me to write you guys this post, i know it cheesy, but you know you want to!
Kiss The Girl

Dating in 2014

We have reached 2014! The end of the world has not come, the arctic has not melted and a zombie apocalypse is not upon us. However your year might be needing a new thing involved, maybe a boy or girl you have been interesting in but just don't know how to ask him or her out yet? I have ideas.
You can always go classic with putting a note in his or her locker, but that is so old i think the dinosaurs used it. Here is a little more of an updated way go to your mall or wherever you have a photo booth and get in there and in one picture have a sign that says her name, then another that says will you go out then another that says with me then the last one with a ? he or she will know that you put time and thought about how you want to go out with them. If you are highly musical then write him or her a song, i don't know about you but that impressed me a ton when it happened to me, it shows how special you are to that person. If you are daring write it on her car / on the sidewalk out front of her house and i trust you as long as she knows you pretty well she won't think your a stalker instead he to she will be thinking about if you were this open to ask her out what awesome things are going to happen on the date. If your boy/girl is athletic there are two ways you can do this number one you can write on whatever ball is in her sport be mine on it or number two take softball, baseballs, basketballs, pom poms, footballs, what ever sport she or be plays and write Date? yes or no in them. If you work at place she goes to a lot, is it's a retail store make sure he or she goes to your checkout when you hand her the receipt on the back write date? If you work at a food place make sure your the one that is either her waiter or is the one that she pays on her check write it would be me a lot of joy to go out to dinner with you, when I'm not you waiter. Dating in 2014 is all about being creative. Sure you can always just  hit em up with a text, or swing by their locker and say you me movie Saturday night 5:00. She or he will be psyched that you asked him out, but they (especially girls) will be so much more excited if they know you put thought into it. If you don't want them to remember how you first asked them out, you shouldn't be asking them out in the first place. Happy asking!
~Nichole 💕